I once heard a friend say this, and what she said shocked me:
“No matter how much a man tries, he can never be a woman. Women are just too beautiful.”
I agree with my friend.
No matter how good technology gets, no matter how advanced surgery gets, and definitely no matter how much effort, money, and care it takes – no man can be a woman. He will never smell as good, look as good, feel as good – and absolutely never be as beautiful.
Because a woman’s beauty and a man’s beauty are not the same, not equal, not interchangeable.
A woman is as different as she can be from a man – and still be 100% human. A man is as different as he can be from a woman – and still be 100% human.
Anyone who believes a man can become a woman must also believe that the night sky can become the stars, that the frame can become the painting, the page can become the story, the dress can become the body.
But no matter how similar the two – it is impossible for one to become the other, because the one is meant for the other, and the other for the one.
But it is understandable why any man would want to become a woman. Who does not want to be beauty? Who does not want to be the person he most adores, admires, cherishes and loves?
So did men get cheated then? Did men lose out somewhere in the scheme? Did we get suckered out of the bargain?
No, because when man holds woman – he supports the stars, he protects and presents the painting, he carries the tale, he embraces the beautiful body. He gets to hold beauty, gets to be with beauty. He gets to care for beauty. He gets to love her.
[Written originally in Autumn 2012]